The most dangerous events for a Modest Muslimah, where her veil is
under the threat are Nikah in a family or festivals of Eid. These two
are the events when cousins and other relatives crowd even around
veiled Muslimah and take liberty to talk to her freely.
I have seen marriages of girls who have never shown their face to
naMahram but in their own weddings during the final stages of walima,
their cousins swarm on the stage to take pictures of the bride along
with them. Obviously till then the hall was segregated and no males were
allowed in to even look at the bride who other wise is in her niqab.
But the cousins take it as their right to invade, keeping aside all the
norms of Hijab. the invasions are such milliantly liberal that even
the bride is helpless. Where are the elders at that time?
During Eids, grown up younger cousins chase modest cousin sisters
asking for eidee ( Eid gift) and stretching their hands to have an "Eid
mumbarak handshake". How painful it is to realise that our own relatives
are the ones who pose a threat to our modesty!
The
cyber lanes are the most dangerous lanes for Muslim men and women. Even
with pages on deen and posters and notes on deen can lead you to a
dangerous situation. Talking and discussing with Namahram and then
getting personal with them which begins with clicking likes and putting
comments under the notes, shares and postes of young girls. On the
faceof it , it doesnt seem to be haram nor can any one declare it to
be.. Is it haram to say Mashallah under a girl's poster? Pops up a
question. Well it cannot be termed Haram but if it tempts then Surah
Isra makes is very clear that " Do not go close to adultery " Dont
forget that you can never fool Allah.
Nothing gives
more liberty than school and college campus. Selfish protocals inform
you that you have to be polite even when refusing a valentine day card
or a bouqette of roses on rose days. "You may share tea and coffee in
college canteen with boys on their birthdays while you continue
wearing your niqab and hijab in campus " Urge girls from your friend
circle. How can you stay aloof from a birthday party when the boys are
so generous and "decent too " !!!
These are
microscopic dangers which can spread like virus in your heads and hearts
if you succumb to it. After all the most dangerous viruses that are
fatal also come in microscopic size , dont they ? yet we take them as a
danger to our life.. Then how about treating these dangers which appear
microscopic but can be fatal to your most precious wealth.. your modesty
?
AUTHOR : Nisaar Nadiadwala canbe reached at nisaar_yusuf@yahoo.com
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